Mother’s Day is such a bitter sweet time for me. I love that we honor mothers and our role in the world, which is so so special. And I also feel that there can be a lot of pressure for everyone around Mother’s Day.
For children, it is a day where often times we expect a little less responsibility and more space to rest. This can be really hard for kids who live in a family where they are used to their mom’s always being there and meeting their needs. And can end in whining, cranky kids and partners feeling confused or frustrated.
For mom’s, myself included, I can sometimes have high expectations and notice feelings of disappointment, and even irritation, if I’m not able to have the rest or space that I might need. It’s a drastic shift for just one day.
When I first noticed these expectations and dynamic around Mother’s Day, I made a commitment to slowly work towards more consistent balance between responsibilities, roles, and TIME for myself. This shift in our family has made Mother’s Day feel better for me. I don’t feel the need to fit everything into A SINGLE DAY, anymore. I can do something special, if I want to. And I can make time more regularly to do the things that fill me up. The pressure is OFF.
Coming out of COVID, I forgot about so many things that I love to do because they simply weren’t options. Now, I am getting my groove back. Here are a few simple things that I am working to build back into my regular routine, that make me feel whole:
- Going to dinner with friends
- Getting a massage
- Taking walks with girlfriends during the work day
- Meditating and breathwork
- Exercise! And also squeeze in 20 minutes for the sauna at the end, as extra motivation
- Traveling, this is so exciting for me and such a huge part of who I am
For those of you who also feel some pressure, or sadness, or disappointment on Mother’s Day, you are not alone. I invite you to remind yourself that, just like you, other people also feel this way on Mother’s Day.
And then, you can think about what really fills you up, and make a commitment to weave those things into your routine. It takes the pressure off and it has helped me personally, enjoy this special day, and all of my days, so much more.
P.S. You don’t need to be a mother to do these things and honor yourself!